Just like the rest of your sex routine, oral benefits from mixing it up. For those with vulvas, there are typically two kinds of toys that mimic the pleasure of oral sex: suction vibrators that feel like suction and use waves and vibration for ultra-intense oral feeling and faux-tongue-like toys that have rubber or silicone nubbins that mimic the more superficial feeling of a literal tongue on your vulva. For faux-tongue-mimicry, we like the Lelo Ora 3, which has a thin layer of silicone stretched over a drum with a tongue-like nubbin that moves in circles and different patterns, that along with vibration, can feel very real. You can also use these toys with a partner the next time your tongue gets tired, or show your partner how you like to be pleasured. Likewise for those with male partners, a blowjob sleeve can be a great way to reacquaint themselves with just how pleasurable oral can really be.

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Whether your partner is yin or yang, there are certain approaches that are applicable to everyone when it comes to giving great head. Like many sex techniques, giving oral pleasure starts with feeling free in the moment and enjoying yourselves together. Instead, read on for a mental how-to, or an emotional checklist to make sure that your trip downtown is fruitful and successful, by all counts. Nobody wants to feel like the person between their legs is bored, grossed out or just not that into it.