As my esteemed colleague, Rebecca Santiago, pointed out , long distance relationships really should be avoided like the plague. At first, I was sort of wary of it. While I can easily write dirty things to him, saying those words out loud brings a whole new level of intimacy, especially when you hear your voice narrating a situation that turns the two of you on. Even if your significant other lives a block away or in the same apartment , you can still use it as a great way to keep things spicy and lively in your sex life. Just follow these tips and you'll see what I mean.